​You may feel that the loss is unbearable and that you’re making other people’s lives harder because of your feelings and needs.

 You may lash out, telling God or a higher power that you’ll do anything they ask if they’ll only grant you relief from these feelings.

 This may be a period of isolation and loneliness during which you process and reflect on the loss.

 ​At this point, the stages of grief like anger and pain have died down, and you’re left in a more calm and relaxed state.

 This is a very gradual acceptance of the new way of life and a feeling of possibility in the future.

​​Myth: The pain will go away faster if you ignore it.

Fact: Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing, it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it. .

 Myth: It’s important to “be strong” in the face of loss.

Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you. 

 Myth: If you don’t cry, it means you aren’t sorry about the loss.

Fact: Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it’s not the only one. Those who don’t cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others. They may simply have other ways of showing it. 

 Myth: Grieving should last about a year.

Fact: There is no specific time frame for grieving. How long it takes differs from person to person. 

 Myth: Greif counseling doesn't work.

Fact: Talking about the grief does not always feel good, but it is healthy to express your feelings and let others help you. Many times others will help to take your mind off of the situation.

 Myth: Moving on with your life means forgetting about your loss.

Fact: Moving on means you’ve accepted your loss—but that’s not the same as forgetting. You can move on with your life and keep the memory of someone or something you lost as an important part of you.